What It Means to Commit

What It Means to Commit

In these times when divorce and separations are so common, celebrating more than five years of marriage is surprising. A dozen years seems to border on a miracle! No relationship is 100% perfect for sure, but it takes a little bit of extra to stay married that long. One such extra effort is commitment.

What do you need to commit most to get a shot in a marriage for life? Commit your time and feelings.

Quality time to spend with your love ones is never wasted. It could be a couple of hours or a couple of minutes to talk about what’s happening and share problems, hopes and dreams. It would also be great if you can find some common interest that you can both spend time together doing. You might have different hobbies for example, but if you try and find out how your partner enjoys that hobby, you might learn to like it to. Or you could just enjoy being silent together – reading books or watching movies side by side. When you commit time into your relationship, you would be surprised by the things you’ll learn by being together now that you’re married. You also keep lines of communication better that way and many couples say that’s the key to the best kind of relationship.

Commitment is another term for promise. And you know what they say about promises – it’s not meant to be broken. It’s also not meant to be done lightly. You see, commitment entails giving more than you have ever done before. You have to hang on from the start and don’t let go when things get shaky. Never ever hesitate to do your best to make your relationship work. Like cheating and mistrust, divorce and separation should be terms that should not easily come into your vocabulary. Instead, choose to look for the positives in each other – be it a good steady income or having a fantastic sense of humor – and focus on it. Be a partner in the true sense of the word – someone to lean on to; someone to boost the other up; and best of all, someone to share a lifetime with.

So whether you said your vows in front of a priest or a rabbi or a monk or a justice of the peace, commit your all to fulfilling them in the best way that you can. You’ll find that there’s no effort at all to commit 5, 10 or 50 years together.